But given who I was in my 20's and 30's, and still am today at nearly 60, I've apparently never been a match for what the North American Menopause Society describes is the case for the majority of women in their 40's and 50's. We've been together 15 years, married for 10, and have a 5 year old daughter and 2 month old son together. Ultimately, the age factor didn't matter much to him. I didn't see her as a "love interest" at first. I date them all the time,” Martine Bergossi, owner of Alternatives, a second-hand couture shop in Paris, said to The Washington Post. “It’s normal to see men with younger women. It rather shreds an author's credibility when they show such a glaring implicit bias in the headline. But i do feel there should be some guidelines when it comes to age differences. One couple, whom I know and I'm friends with the man of the pair, sees a 17 year age gap. She dated significantly older men, had a child and is raising the child on her own. Who are you, some kind of sex-is-only-for-procreation church nut? According to a very small study published in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy, relationships in which the woman is at least 10 years older than the man found positive attitudes among the couple themselves, but their union was also informed by a fear of stigma from outsiders. She is 13 years older than her mate. Remember that it's about the two of you as individuals, not your age difference. I was beginning to believe that because of this, men gravitated toward girls 20 years thier juniour or even more. Parenting is far more difficult and stressful than many people realize. And you need to know, that your guy knows this as well. He is also 20 years younger than me. My family is accepting but his family has always been close minded. Women live five years longer than men, and men die earlier of nine of the top ten leading causes of death. If they are that age or older, possibilities exist. Keep your expectations of emotional maturity real and don't over estimate it. Namely, he’s thrusting his wife, Brigitte Trogneux, into the spotlight. Likely to be further in her career. She had already been there and done things I was just experiencing for the first time. 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So yes, I'm sure my priorities would be very different from other people, so this is not general advice. Hold up the poster child of Aston Kirshner and Demi Moore all you want. I also want to add that we both treasure and enjoy our age gap, sexually speaking, our age difference is an asset rather than a liability. All along my feelings for her were changing and I found myself becoming attracted to her. Heck, as I can personally attest, even men like myself in his late 50's with a very high sex drive is having a very difficult situation with my wife in her early 50's with a much reduced sex drive. People can be so cruel and judgemental about somebody else's life. So, on average, a man choosing a woman five years older is marrying his physiological equal. It is a complete waste of time trying to please others and win approval. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I think age-gap couples are kidding themselves when they try to say their just like traditional age couples. I'm 58 and my girlfriend is 8 years younger than me, which doesn't seem like much of a difference physically... ...Of course, that depends on the health and biological age of the people. so maybe it's for the best? One couple sees a 20 year age gap. They lived together for two years. "  Should you make such a major life decision based on some narrow-minded people's definition of normalcy? For centuries older men have dated younger women and society has accepted it, yet when the tables are turned men get upset. My Spouse is 22 Years Older Than Me. I’ve also seen firsthand other younger men who finally grow up, and realize they want to father a child, or they’ve seen the ugly face of the control and dominance, or the even uglier face of the older woman’s problematic and parasitic adult children. Not so well. I went through this when I married a younger man. and it just kept getting better. AMA! women don't get brainwashed by love. 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